A few years back I found this list of questions on a Facebook note (if anyone knows the original source, PLEASE let me know!).
- What is something mom/dad always says to you?
- What makes mom/dad happy?
- What makes mom/dad sad?
- How does your mom/dad make you laugh?
- What was your mom/dad like as a child?
- What is her/his favorite thing to do?
- What does your mom/dad do when you’re not around?
- If your mom/dad becomes famous, what will it be for?
- What is your mom/dad really good at?
- What is your mom/dad not very good at?
- What does your mom/dad do for a job?
- What is your mom’s/dad’s favorite food?
- What makes you proud of your mom/dad?
- If your mom/dad were a cartoon character, who would she be?
- What do you and your mom/dad do together?
- How are you and your mom/dad the same?
- How are you and your mom/dad different?
- How do you know your mom/dad loves you?
- What does your mom/dad like most about your dad/mom?
- Where is your mom’s/dad’s favorite place to go?
Since then I’ve been asking them to Henry every year … usually around Mother’s & Father’s Day. I love hearing his honest, candid answers. I also love to look back at the previous years to see how he’s developed … and how our relationship is changing.
I also frequently use this list as an assessment of parent-child relationships in my work as a child therapist. It’s very useful when I need to gather more information on how the child perceives their parents and how they view the relationship. (important! depending on the moment that the questions are asked, answers can change drastically … so always remember to take answers with a grain of salt and to look at the whole bigger picture when using the questions in this manner!)
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