Behind the Scenes: Real. Super. Mom.

Real. Super. Mom.  For some reason people in general have the tendency to assume that what we see in photos or read about in the media is the whole story.  It is NEVER the whole story.  We only get mere glimpses into the lives of others.  We are told only what they want to share; We are shown only what they want us to see.

This is pertinent as my work as a therapist … and a blogger.  As a therapist I must be aware that I may only be told a portion of the reality that my client lives in.  It is the hope that as the trust and relationship grows, the window grows larger for both therapist and client.  I also need to be cognizant that I am only sharing a portion of my world to my client … and that they may or may not be filling in the gaps with all sorts of information.  They may perceive that I must “have it all together”(WRONG) since I can tell others what to do (WRONG AGAIN … it’s your life, I can only walk the path with you).

And there seems to be this perception of bloggers … especially “mom bloggers” … that are being identified as “super moms”.  These moms are being thought to have “picture perfect” houses with homemade organic meals made three times a day (accented with kid-friendly snacks) between trips to local museums and parks when they are not creating mini masterpieces from an idea found on (or created for) Pinterest with their wonderfully behaved, stylishly dressed children.  And maybe there are some moms out there like this … but it’s definitely not THIS mom.  Definitely not my house.  Definitely not me.

And that’s why when Dyan from And Next Comes L came up with a series for Mother’s Day that would focus on the “behind the scenes” lives of mom bloggers, I knew I wanted in.

As bloggers we know that clear, bright, clean photos are what catch people’s eye.  Messy clutter doesn’t bring in the attention … maybe because all one has to do to see that is look up from the screen.  So we show what we want you to see; we crop out or photo shop the rest.  Here are some photos to show you what I leave out …

A huge pile of shoes …

Our broken oven door (yes, it fell right off … thank goodness there is the bottom one because we don’t have the money to remodel our kitchen just yet!) …

Stacks of laundry waiting to be folded …

Way too much screen time …

Hideous orange carpet on our stairs and painting that still needs to be completed …

Horrible faux marble tile that keeps coming up …

And how my kitchen typically looks on a day I haven’t cleaned it off …

Yup, I’m real.  My house gets messy.  We are behind on home projects.  My kids spend too much time in front of the screen.  We eat out often and intake way too many processed foods.  I drink a lot of diet coke and carry more extra pounds than I like to think about.  I love to spend the day in my pjs with my hair in a bun.

But we smile.  We cuddle.  We laugh. We hug.  We have fun.  We are together.  We are a family.

The point is we are all super moms … just trying to do our best.  Dirty floors, stacks of laundry, buried under home projects, babysitter screens, and too much fast food.  Real.  Mom.  Super.

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